Now that Jennie’s new little guy has arrived, it’s got me thinking about multiples and how different it is after having your first baby. When you have one kiddo, you can’t help but worry how you’re going to manage more than one…especially when you’re a SAHM. Jennie and I both feel passionate about being “present” during the day with our kids and have found the way to stay sane when you’re at home with your kid(s) is to keep yourself busy. We plan daily outings with the kids, crafts, teaching them through play, etc. It’s definitely a full time job!
So when I hear moms of multiples say the number one thing that saved their butts is…”continue to send your other kids to day care” I have to wonder how the average SAHM manages it?? A good piece of advice I’ve been told is “lower your expectations” which yes, I agree with – but exactly how much? I guess the answer to that question is different for everyone, depending on your comfort level.
I remember the first time Jennie mentioned that she wanted to look into getting a “cuddler” for baby no. 2 and she cringed at the thought of people judging her, thinking she was crazy and just plain spoiled. I might tend to agree with any of the previous statements but I guess it all depends on your intentions.
Let’s face it – without sleep you just don’t function. With your first baby, you have all the time in the world to sleep when they sleep and you’re not pushed straight back into the demands of running the house. So when you have multiple kids, and you continue to send them to day care – in theory you can sleep during they day when they sleep and at least not have to be a “functioning mommy” until the other kids come home from day care. So what about the SAHM? We’re up most of the night with a new baby and then we’re supposed to be “present” all day for other child(ren)? Yikes! It sounds like a recipe for disaster! Honestly, my worst fear with having a new baby is to be so tired that I have no patience…with Luke and with my husband, which already happens if I don’t get enough sleep!! Ha!
That’s what I love about Jennie trying out the “cuddler” and I’m so glad she’s able to actually get sleep and be awake and ready for Cody in the morning! So…what are the options if you can’t afford a “cuddler”? Do you lower your expectations so much that you walk around for the first few months like a zombie and use things like the TV as a babysitter for your older kid(s) while you try and sleep during the day just trying to make it through? I guess that depends on your comfort level. For me, plugging my kids into the TV day after day would be the worst thing for me but there are moments now when it’s what saves MY butt from time to time! It’s not that I’m against TV – it’s only that I’d hate to abuse it!
I’d love to hear how YOU made it through with multiple kids! What was YOUR worst fear about having multiple kids??